Taking a break from dating

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Last week, I deleted all dating apps off of my phone For the most part, I approach life from a glass half fullsunshine and rainbowsanything is possiblethe Universe is working in your favor point of view. Overall, from focus has been on saying "goodbye" to mindless, numbing, energy-sucking habits Do I want to date and meet potential romantic partners? Yes, but not at the cost of investing loads of time and energy into platforms that take more than break give.

Why I'm Taking a Break From Dating

Have I met some good guys on dating apps? But in the last six months, I can count exactly one instance of meeting someone off of a dating app who I was truly interested in. Given the inverse time-to-success ratio, I decided it was time to take a break and let the Universe take control. In my experience, the Universe always finds a way to make the stars align After hours of undocumented field research and qualitative interviews, I started break a rather unscientific theory about the way dating apps have changed the landscape of dating In my opinion, you can only get out of something the effort you put in.

What does “taking a break” mean?

By observation, the effort most people put into connecting with others via dating apps is lackluster, at best. Overall, I would say the majority of my time spent using dating apps was problems carbon dating equivalent of filtering through a long list of rather unqualified leads in a cold-call sales job I found the common theme with apps is to spread your energy into several conversations that can only be kept up halfheartedly instead of focusing on holding a few, high-quality conversations full disclosure: I'm guilty, too.

Most importantly, even if you are already overwhelmed dating matches you can't sustain conversations with, you should keep swiping; there could always be "better" options out there, after all.

I could go on about the ways we're being ineffective, at best, but if you're reading this, I'm assuming you've already experienced some of the joys of dating in the digital age and are on the same page.

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I definitely did. The hard part was even getting to that point. What I hated about dating apps were the bad behaviors and humdrum effort that I had to endure and filter through just to get to an in-person meeting. But, I absolutely put intention behind things such as creating my profile and starting conversations; and I think that intention showed. I worry, too, that many have become so reliant on the at-your-fingertips access of dating apps that singles have not had to hone the skills we previously did to approach, flirt with, and from ask someone out in real life.

The participants in my unscientific study corroborated: approaching or being approached by someone of the opposite sex while taking on the town has seemingly become a thing of taking past So, have dating apps changed dating landscape of dating for the worst?

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Or worse, have we become a generation that no longer values or understands true connection? I believe that the fairy tale is available to all of us - app or no app. However, no fairy tale comes without some serious effort and the necessity to evolve not only for, but because of the relationship.

Apr 29 Written By Amanda Kuda. Amanda Kuda.